We all have our own love languages that speak to us, even in friendships. After spending a lot of time with someone, you slowly begin to identify their love language — essentially, what makes them happy and feel loved. And in friendships, these little things can bring huge chunks of joy!
So take out five minutes to learn how you can express your love to your friend in many different ways:
Words of Affirmation
Yes, words—the age-old whisperers of love. Most times, people simply overlook the power of words, considering them too overused. And in turn, they slowly become too used to never saying nice things to their friends. Bad, bad thing to do!
● Tell them “I love you” regularly. Even if sounds very cheesy!
● Leave cute written notes for them in their bag or between the pages of their books. Mention something you like about them in it.
● Tell them how special they are and specify meaningful things about their personality that make them extraordinary.
● COMPLIMENT THEIR HAIR, OUTFIT, MAKEUP, LOOKS, ANYTHING. (Very important!!!)
Gifts, Gifts, Gifts
No, you do not have to be filthy rich for this, only thoughtful. Take note of things they like and gift them little items now and then. For example, you can get them a scented candle or make a happy playlist for them when they feel down.
Acts of Service
Help them out with small things that express love, respect, and thoughtfulness. For example, bring them their lunch if you see them busy with their work/studies. Help them in cleaning their room, organize their grocery, etc. Do their chores when they are feeling unwell.
No, you are never too cool for a warm friendly hug! Hug your friends, hold their hands, and do not shy away from human touch!
You should never limit your friendship to parties or school/workplace timings. Extend your love outside of these social structures in the following ways:
● Spend a day with them at the park talking about your shared interests.
● Spend time with them over lunch or coffee.
● Stay away from your phone when you are with them.
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In this age, virtual interactions have almost become a necessity. Say, if you have friends all around the world, it is simply not possible (nor pocket-friendly!) to visit all of them regularly like you can with real-life friends.
On top of that, we have the global enemy of socialization to compete with: COVID-19. So even meeting with real-life friends is not a good idea these days. But there is an answer to that: Virtual dates.
And one golden rule goes with virtual dates with your friends: the more invested you are in them, the more fun they are!
Sure, they are just not as appealing as physical dates where you can move around and be silly together and laugh and stuff your mouths with food, but trust me, virtual dates can be quite rewarding too!
Here are some ideas you can use for virtual dates with your friends:
A lunch date with an interesting backdrop
Quarantine does not forbid you from ordering in or takeaway (thankfully!). So decide on a time and date, play with the virtual backgrounds on Zoom, and have endless meaningful conversations over mouthwatering food!
A fashion show
Get on Zoom with your friend/friends, and throw a dress-up party! Explore your wardrobes together and find new identities to embody with different clothing items. In the end, you can also declare a winner or rate everyone’s outfits!
Life is short and long. we need to live it with our heart.Every day it’s eating.sleeping. working.and resting. Many times I repeat the monotonous life. If there is an interesting person by my side for the rest of my life. it will make this life much happier.
In the world of two peoplethere will be many good things and many sad things. If two people have stepped into the ocean of love only because of their temporary appreciation and have not deeply understood each other’stastes then it is very likely that there will be greater disturbances in the future getting along.
If two people are very optimistic about each other’s interest from the beginning. it will invisibly add points to the two people’s feelings and the naturally cultivated emotional foundation will be stronger.
Because you have a hobby that both parties like you will not feel so boring in the process of getting along, and you will often feel the fun that the other party brings to yourself. In a fun-filled environment every day.the relationship between the two parties will of course be very harmonious and life will naturally be very happy.
If two people have hobbies that each other likes they can use this as a bridge to enhance communication and make each other’s feelings more intimate. There will be fewer and fewer gaps and contradictions in your life and your happy days will become more and more.
In the exchange of your interests your feelings will unknowingly get closer. gradually bringing your relationship closer together and your interest will slowly lead you to love to the good life that belongs to you and add excitement to your love.
Love is a process from wonderful to plain. No matter how sweet and romantic you were before, you will return to plainness in the end. No matter how beautiful eachother was before, and how yearning for the future of life. in the end. he could not escape the ordinary life of firewood. rice. oil and salt.
But if you have the same interests your life will be a bit more fun than others and a touch of beauty will emerge in the ordinary. In fact. no matter how strong love is.it cannot be separated from life.
The like-minded people we are talking about will of course also include life. You must know that a person who is used to going to bed early and getting up early cannot accept that the other half likes to stay up until dawn. It can be seen that these interests in life are also very important.
Hobbies can be used as a fresh-keeping agent in love, while interest in life habits can be used as a stabilizer in life. Only by being familiar with each other’s living habits and knowing how to take care of each other’s lives can we maintain the stability and peace of the two people’s long-term life.
In life. partners who can live a stable life are often familiar with each other’s food. clothing. housing and transportation. such as favorite tastes. colors and dislike topics. etc. These details are continuously collected and gradually become Habit. this is the real fusion with the other party’s interests.
People who really know how to love each other know how to love life. To fall in loveis to start from loving life. Only when you give yourself positive energy can you have the ability to fall in love with others and then you can pursue an interesting life between two people.
People with interest tend to have deep knowledge in dealing with life. When you get along with this kind of person. you will always feel the joy of life. There is no lack of happiness around this kind of person.because they can understand the ordinary in life. The little things are exquisitely dressed, and every little detail in life is unearthed and processed, and finally becomes the interesting appearance he wants.
With such a person, you will feel the surprise of life at any time. Gradually, you will be influenced and become an interesting person, so that two people can work together to discover more beautiful things in life.
The rest of your life is very long. Instead of living a lifeless life, it is better to find someone who understands the fun of life to accompany you through it.
In fact, most people still think that the time is very short.So there is no time to waste, we must act quickly, Cause you can think over the time. one year? Five years? ten years? How many decades are there in life?
Often emotional pain is not given the same amount of attention and care as physical pain, making it much harder to heal. Breakups, especially after a long run, are one of the most intense emotional pains humans experience. Yet, there are little to no remedies for recovering from it. Here I will mention a few of the ways you can heal from a breakup.
Acknowledge the pain. When we break up, we face the harsh reality of being rejected. This rejection is a huge blow to our egos and often causes us to ignore the pain and act indifferent to it. But ignoring this pain will cause our emotions to gather up only to erupt like a volcano at any moment. Thus, the first step towards healing from a breakup is to accept that it has affected you in many ways.
Let it all out. Once you have accepted that you were hurt and rejected, the next step is to mourn the loss- quite literally. Cry your heart out, scream into the pillow (flush their pictures into the toilet, etc.), and do not, even for a moment, think that your friend is judging you for your runny nose.
Surround yourself with love. The next step is to surround yourself with love. Be with family, friends, and even pets who provide you with unconditional support and love, whose company empowers you and makes you feel strong. Taking a helping hand from loved ones during a breakup can feel like a fresh breath of air after a deep dive. In short, relying on love can make you get up on your feet again.
Find love within yourself. In relationships, we sometimes shower our partners with all of the love that we have. And forget to keep some for ourselves. While breaking up, it seems like our ex has taken all our love with them, and there is nothing left behind. The final and the hardest step in healing from a breakup is to start learning self-love again. You can do this by reviving your healthy habits, pampering yourself, eating healthy, exercising, and doing what you love.
Finally, be sure to be patient with yourself. You will not heal overnight, give yourself time and see yourself emerge as a stronger person from this healing process.
As we all know, finding someone who is mature, pure, humble, and down to earth in this cruel and robotic world seems tough and almost not possible. But some people are fortunate enough to meet the love of their life and enjoy their lives together in peace.
So while choosing someone to share your breakfast dates and movie nights, there are few things you should consider.
1. Observe his behaviour with other women
If he does not respect other women and does not really care about his ways of behaving with them, he might not ever be respectable towards you as well. So thinking twice before making him an essential part of your life is not invalid.
2. Notice his honesty with you
Many people experience deception and untruthfulness in their relationships. It not only affects their partnership but gives the person terrible emotional trauma. This is why you should look for someone who means whatever they say and someone open about how they feel.
3. See how he manages his anger
Anger management is important as it not only assists in resolving problems early but is also considered beneficial for your physical health. Problems like anxiety and stress leave a negative impact on the relationship if he fails to keep calm in ugly arguments.
4. His support for your ambitions and goals
A relationship is not defined by the intimate stuff alone. Other things like choosing a partner who keeps on motivating you to achieve your goals and is willing to support you with whatever decision you make for your future are also essential.
5. His behaviour with domestic helpers
The way he treats helpers and waitresses says a lot about his empathetic character, which must be acknowledged and recognized. Compassion is one of the most important moral qualities, and you should try to find someone who can easily feel for other people.
Life is unpredictable and does not always follow the basic patterns of happiness, peace and love. There can be days where you dwell in feelings of discontent and misery. These sorts of ups and downs of life are inevitable and can eventually affect your relationships. Therefore, in order to keep the spark alive, you can follow some healthy practices and steer clear of toxicity.
1. Trust your partner
Trust is needed to build the foundation of your relationship, and if the foundation is shaky, it is tough to create a stronger bond and overcome any complications.
2. Keep open communication
It is necessary to openly communicate with your partner and share your feelings, thoughts and opinions. Some people fear rejection so much that they end up damaging their relationship, as well as their own mental well-being.
3. Stop comparing your partner with your ex
Long-lasting issues arise when you overshare your ex’s wrongdoings and your past relationship struggles with your new partner. They will no longer see you as a victim. And assume that this bitterness will also have a damaging impact on them.
4. Refrain from controlling your partner
Dominating and controlling behaviour instils a lack of confidence in the other person. Avoid getting upset if they don’t text or call back immediately, as it is one of the reasons for the development of toxicity in your relationship.
5. Show love more often
“We often love our partner the way we want to be loved,” Cook says. Showering your partner with love should not be an occasional thing; it should be done more often than you think. Getting each other little presents, going out on special dates and having meaningful conversations should not be limited to birthdays and anniversaries. They should extend to every other weekend. These little activities not only convey your love to your partner but keep the spark alive.
Unresolved issues and a bunch of childish misunderstandings can lead to arguments that are usually avoidable. Therefore if something bothers you or hurts you about your significant other, care to discuss it with them and sort it out. Here are some ways to avoid fights in a relationship.
Confront your partner if something is bothering you: Most of the time, when people say mean things, they fail to realize how it is going to affect the other person. So it is necessary to confront them respectfully and explain your thought process in a positive way.
Do not lie to get the other person’s attention: When you twist the truth to get your partner’s attention, serious consequences take place. By practising acceptance, making your boundaries, and sticking to them, you can avoid this behaviour of yours.
Stop victim-blaming: Victim-blaming can not only leave a negative impact on your relationship but on both of you as well. If you have made any mistake, have enough courage to accept it, apologize sincerely and make peace with your partner.
Watch your tone: The saying, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it,” has become so commonly used and is actually very true. In the heat of the moment, people get so furious that they say things they don’t mean in a much louder and aggressive tone. In order to clear things out, speak in a low pitch and explain your side properly.
Give your partner and yourself space: Personal and private space is as important as any other requirement of a healthy relationship. Giving each other time to do your own thing is a great sign of a healthy relationship, and it helps to give closer attention to our sentiments. So to avoid fights in a relationship, we must start by fixing ourselves.
It all began after an eventful summer break in middle school when puberty hit our innocence like a truck and left behind a mess of hormones. I saw the love of my life walking in the halls, looking as stunning as a 13-year-old could, passing by me and leaving me breathless. That was the moment I fell in love.
I wanted to purpose her and make her my bride right then and there. But there were two major hurdles in my love life; first, her jock of a boyfriend, and second, my awfully low self-esteem. Both forced me to never express my feelings to her as a “nerd like me could never have a girl like her.” Hence, I spent the rest of the years of my school life watching her from the shadows.
After graduation, I worked on myself, got a college degree, moved on with life, and forgot about her until I saw her profile again on a dating website. She looked exactly like I remembered – angelic. On seeing her profile, all the feelings of love came rushing back to me, and with came the shadows of self-doubt as well. After spending an hour debating whether to interact with her or not, I finally made a move and expected nothing because why would she even remember me, right?
To my surprise, she did. Our conversation started on the dating website with the nostalgic past and changed present. One thing led to another and, now I was going on a date with the most beautiful girl I had ever seen in my life. Nervous as hell, I took her on our first date and felt myself falling in love all over again; there, I realized that this dating website was the cupid’s arrow of love and not just a mere coincidence. So, without a second thought, I proposed to her and she said yes!
So, folks, that is the story of how I re-met the love of my life through a dating website.
When you don’t value yourself and your boundaries, your relationships get ruined. With that, you lose respect and a positive outlook on life. Therefore it is necessary to keep your self-respect intact and never beg someone to put the same level of effort and love into relationships. Here are some cons of begging someone to stay. Here are some cons of begging someone to stay. They will help you navigate why you should never do so and live a life of contentment.
He will never respect you: If you think that begging your partner to stay in a relationship will make him fall back in love with you and start respecting you like before, I am afraid to tell you that it is usually not possible. It is hard to re-establish the same kind of love, care, attachment and respect once it’s lost. So try to accept that your relationship is over and move on with your life.
He will start taking you for granted: It is one of the most common problems in a relationship. When you feel like you’ve been used and taken for granted, take a stand for yourself and try to figure out whether this relationship needs a further push or not.
Your relationship turns toxic: When the other person doesn’t want to stay in a relationship, he will initiate fights over minor issues. You can resolve them if you work together, but he will start finding reasons to leave you. Well, in that case, do whatever you think is best for yourself and your mental health.
The Bright Side of Not Caring About Them Leaving
You will start working on yourself when you stop caring about who will stay in your life and who will not, and you will eventually be able to see who deserves your energy and time and who does not.
You are too precious to waste your emotions on the people who are not willing to stay. Always keep the exit door open for people like them and let them go.